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1000 Women Talk About Sex

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What a great way to start the morning! Salon poses the question Why Do Women Have Sex? and interviews Cindy M. Meston and evolutionary psychologist David M. Buss, two researchers at the University of Texas at Austin and the authors of a recent 1000 women survey turned book.

Some interesting, if not familiar highlights are: orgasms don’t exactly serve an evolutionary function (they’re just nice and make women want to have sex more), women have sex because it “feels good” just like men, harm reduction without addressing root cause is not as effective, rape fantasies (about submission v. fear for one’s life) are fairly common, and hetero leaning women tend to be attracted to tall, square-jawed men.

What was a brand new concept for me was the scientific term for Hook Up Culture: Short-term mating! Some of the added benefits for women in short-term mating are:

Buss: It’s also my hunch that women are probably gaining other sorts of benefits — in a pinch she can probably call the guy if she needs him for something.

Like moving heavy things, building shelves, and truing a bike wheel! A mutually useful exchange. Somehow I think Laura Sessions Stepp wouldn’t agree.

Date Rape, Axe, and Being Loud (Again) on Trains

I turned the Xacti on to read this bit from an anonymous sex column in American University’s paper, The Eagle, that we came across on the way down to our screening there later that night. Also: Amanda Hess’s reaction in the Washington CityPaper‘s blog The Sexist. And what happens when you talk about sex real loud on the Amtrak.

Tucker Max, Girls Just Wanna Have Fun

Over here at where is your line?, we’re pretty tired of Tucker Max’s caricature of masculinity/male minstrel show. To “change the game” of sexual relations for the better, sometimes you have to state the obvious — in this case, Girls Enjoy Sex. Here’s a 30 second antidote to the ills of male chauvinism/ignorance.

Girls Just Wanna Have Fun” was whipped up (by fabulous Isaac with a few tweaks from me) in the week between our first international premiere, and hopping Amtrak to a screening at American University. Tucker Max and his book were on the periphery of my radar, but he seemed like this year’s Joe Francis, a privileged white guy capitalizing on people’s desire to be famous, and making a lot of money from it. When I saw the marketing campaign advertising his movie, we knew we wanted to respond. The grossest thing about his message is the notion that you need to sneak up, trick or coerce girls into sex. We have so much evidence to prove the contrary, we decided to show you.

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On the Way to American University

Nancy and I had three hours on the train today with nothing to do but read blogs and point cameras at each other. (We’re dorks. I know.) Here’s what she said about our first college screening of the Fall, tonight at American University.

Washington, DC: THE LINE at American University, September 24

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On Thursday, Nancy and I are going to hop a train (which sounds a lot more romantic than racing to it with laptops and cameras will probably be) for THE LINE’s first Washington, DC screening at American University, also the home of our fabulous intern Carmen Rios. It’s going to be a total reunion for us, and my first time getting to see THE LINE play in front of a college crowd.

We’ve got an invite on Facebook that you can share, or RSVP to, if you can come. And if you can come, comment here and let us know and we’ll make sure to connect with you and shoot a sticker photo with you in our super high-tech Photo Booth. (It’s probably only slightly less amazing than what you can already do in your own room.)

“Ask Before You’re Mean.”

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What people consider “rough” in sex is so different, and can change so quickly — never mind the fact that women who ask for someone to be mean or dominating is still too complicated for some people (some partners, some feminists, some friends) to deal with. It’s like we can have lots of sex, so long as we’re “romantic” about it. Or, worse, if we want someone to pull our hair, it’s because we are “up for anything” and have “no boundaries,” not because it’s something we like to do: all the time, some times, just with them, just to try it.

Between chick flick cuddling and facial come shots, there’s a whole spectrum of things to do in bed, and the common denominator is, we can ask for any of them.

Where Is Your Line? TELL US!

Think about it. Find it. Communicate it. Respect it. Get creative.

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