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Vintage Sexual Harassment – Jerusalem, 2000

Cleaning out my office yesterday, I stumbled upon a decade-old stack of printed out emails and photographs. Ten years ago I was living and working in Jerusalem, my hair was long and black, and wearing a tank top was a subversive act. Here’s a little snapshot of a hot June morning, and for the record, my shoulders were bare.
From: Nancy Schwartzman, Jerusalem
To: Ex Boyfriend, Brooklyn
Sent: Tuesday, June 27, 2000 9:50 AM
Subject: Jerusalem Morning
We’re all jaded. Ears Accustomed. Eyes averted.
We’ve heard it all before:
Cat calls and whistles up and down Atlantic Avenue-
Little boys too young to call you beautiful, men too old to even look at you-
Spanish, Spanglish, Chinese, English, whispers, shouts, hisses…
Canal Street, Houston, Park Ave., 4th Ave., Douglass, Amsterdam, the A, B C and D.
But this one was different:
9:00 am. Blazing Sun. Pale, pale me. Stumbling along through the park to my office – no coffee, too vain to wear a hat, shielding my eyes from the desert sun searing over the Hinnom Valley. Dressed in New York black, red Kenneth Cole Slides. Feeling Fierce.
From between the cracks in my fingers, a vision of the tiniest, most wrinkled man, appears out of a cloud of desert dust, a scarf flapping carelessly over his shoulder. A brown grisled hand clutches his crotch as he hobbles toward me.
I avert my eyes.
He continues on his bowlegged path, crotch in hand, destination unclear.
No, not him. He needs to relieve himself. He’s a grandpa! Not him, not now. So old, so small, too early in the morning, and I can’t run on slippery Jerusalem stones in my sloping Slides.
The inevitable happens. Crotch grabbing, scarf flapping, legs bowling, teeth missing -leans in real close, reaches out to touch and asks:
“do you speak English? I love you.”
When I’m no longer living in the Middle East, am I gonna miss mornings like this?
love,
nancy
And to try and answer that question now, I can say that yes I miss hot, desert mornings and no, I don’t miss feeling intimidated by a wrinkled old man. Next time, I’ll have my camera with me… Anyone wanna start a HollabackJerusalem?
Social Media / Working Films
Photo: I’m a Woman
@thelinecampaign: Sex. Consent. Power. Pleasure.
The Line is a film. The Line is a movement. The Line is up to you.
“THE LINE is about building a world where people are free to be sexual beings without being used or mistreated. Hookup culture disempowers even its bravest soldiers with “dude, I’m gettin’ some tonight;” even when women play the game, we’re expected to obey someone else’s rules.”
From: “Next time, text me back: I was the Grrl du Jour” (Author: Carmen)
“I applaud Ronan’s speaking out about his struggle as a male person negotiating “Manhood” with a commitment to social justice… As a male person who grew up with and fully defensive about all but class privilege, I understand that coming to a place of recognition without defensiveness and learning from the discomfort is difficult and it’s a process that requires a courage and strength much more meaningful than the traditional “Manly” version.”
From: “Responses to: Sexist Boyhood in Urban New Jersey” (Author: Ronen, Comment Jonathon Grove)
The Line is a 24-minute documentary, challenging ideas about sexual consent, negotiation, and boundaries. It is told from a personal point of view in a compelling, engaging style suited for a college-age audience. It is the first film of its kind to address the topic of consent in a direct, sex-positive voice, while examining a sexual assault where part of the act was consensual and part of it was forced. The film asks the question: where is the line defining consent?
The biggest challenge for this outreach project, was taking the topic of sexual assault and creating a space for non-polarizing, accessible, and non-judgmental conversation that emphasizes communication, personal responsibility and pleasure. Our goal was to create an educational, interactive and multi-media campaign that fosters dialogue about sexual boundaries and consent, and empowers young men and women to discuss complex scenarios about healthy relationships and sex.
Photo: OMG, Yes, Please ETC.
With support from The Fledgling Fund, and collaboration with Melissa Gira Grant we launched where is your line? a group blog on consent, sex, pleasure, and ways we all can ask for what we want. Through shared stories, photos, and comments, we invite the audience to become participants, and to dig deeper into the questions raised by the film. Using the online/social media tools popular with college students and activists, — blogging, Facebook, internet video, and Twitter, we solicited entries from people with large networks, jumped onto message boards, and cross-posted our content as broadly as possible. Once we started generating stories, the thornier the better, we enriched the experience by soliciting comments from educators and sexperts, who would eventually become our non-profit partners.
We wanted to launch the website with a splash, and the opportunity came our way in the form of Tucker Max and the release of his film “I Hope They Serve Beer in Hell“. Facebook, twitter and feminist blogs were lighting up in anger about the sexist, misogynist and racist content of the film, and the truly nasty ways his camp was responding to protesters using video and photo-shop. In less than two days, we cut together a PSA-style video piece, sticking to our message that good sex is consensual sex, and reminding frat boys everywhere that Girls Just Wanna Have Fun. We posted the video on our site and throughout our networks, and it got picked up on feministing.com, which in turn got picked up on Tucker Max’s site, which directed more folks back to us. Being part of the media response to Tucker helped us get established, and helped his film bomb at the box office!
Photo: When does a guy become “That Guy”
Working Films has always emphasized long-standing and far reaching relationships with non-profit partners to maximize the impact of your film. We have tested the waters using our online networks, and have now identified the right organizations to collaborate with on a concrete level, with tangible and attainable mutual goals. Using the Working Films summit model, we look forward to bringing The Line and The Line Campaign into hundreds of classrooms and community groups nationwide.
Alcohol + Consent, a G-chat
Rishauna: hi nancy–are you available to give your perspective on a work related question?
me: yes i am. what’s up?
9. Don’t Forget: You Can’t Have Sex with Someone Unless They Are Awake!
Yesterday, my Mom emailed me CNN’s article “Rape Victims Offer Advice to College Women” chock full of helpful tips about how we women can avoid being raped while attending college. The article highlights the study put forward by the Center for Public Integrity about rampant sexual assault on college campuses, and how most often schools fail the victims. The study reveals a lack of transparency on campus, and a culture of secrecy combined with barriers to reporting.
So we’ve moved beyond blaming the victim to blaming the institution? Sorry, folks, that’s just not good enough. I replied to my Mom’s email with:
THEY SHOULD BE TEACHING COLLEGE MEN NOT TO RAPE!
Nowhere did this widely circulating article mention preventing violence before it happens. How’s about a little prevention education for teen boys, prevention education for freshman boys, prevention education for football stars, prevention education for film students, prevention education for fratboys, prevention education for valedictorians, prevention education for nice Jewish boys, prevention education for student body presidents, or good old prevention education directed at those who initiate sexual activity and perpetrate non-consensual sex?
My Mom hearkened back to a bygone era captured in film:
In the Philadelphia Story with Katherine Hepburn, there is a marvelous scene:
Kate has gotten drunk the night before her wedding to husband #2 and gone swimming (with a suit on!) after midnight with a handsome reporter. She is so drunk that he has to carry her to her room. At the time of the midnight swim Kate is being plagued by memory of being called cold and unfeeling, almost not human.
The handsome reporter tells the fiancé to simmer down, nothing happened. Kate explodes asking, “why am I so unattractive?”
Now the good part. Handsome reporter replies, “you were drunk and there are rules about that!”
Somewhere we have forgotten the rules. Love MOM
*Sigh* Yup, but not all of us have forgotten the rules, Men Can Stop Rape, PreventConnect, SAFER, White Ribbon, Byron Hurt and many more are working diligently to reach out and educate young men to end gender-based violence against women.
But until then, here are some handy tips GUARANTEED TO PREVENT SEXUAL ASSAULT, brought to you by the Feminist Law Professors:
1. Don’t put drugs in people’s drinks in order to control their behavior.
2. When you see someone walking by themselves, leave them alone!
3. If you pull over to help someone with car problems, remember not to assault them!
4. NEVER open an unlocked door or window uninvited.
5. If you are in an elevator and someone else gets in, DON’T ASSAULT THEM!
6. Remember, people go to laundry to do their laundry, do not attempt to molest someone who is alone in a laundry room.
7. USE THE BUDDY SYSTEM! If you are not able to stop yourself from assaulting people, ask a friend to stay with you while you are in public.
8. Always be honest with people! Don’t pretend to be a caring friend in order to gain the trust of someone you want to assault. Consider telling them you plan to assault them. If you don’t communicate your intentions, the other person may take that as a sign that you do not plan to rape them.
9. Don’t forget: you can’t have sex with someone unless they are awake!
10. Carry a whistle! If you are worried you might assault someone “on accident” you can hand it to the person you are with, so they can blow it if you do.
All Posts from this Author
- What can you do to make a difference?
- Roll Call: The Truth about VAWA
- Circle of 6: One (Mobile) Piece of the Anti-Violence Puzzle
- Circle of 6 iPhone App Launches Today!
- Invisible War
- Consent 101: M.I.T
- Consent 101: Hunter College
- The Invisible War
- Consent 101: Penn State at Abington
- Consent 101: LREI High School
- Consent 101: Northwestern University
- Consent 101: Cornell University
- Consent 101: University of Wisconsin at Oshkosh
- Consent 101: University of Wisonsin at La Crosse
- Consent 101: Answers from The Line Campaign
- Circle of 6 Wins the White House Challenge!
- The Line Campaign at Media That Matters Conference
- xoxosms screens this weekend and online!
- To Pitch or to Pee: Say What? Re-learning how to Speak “Documentary”
- Sensitivity Training for the NYPD
- SlutWalk: Why I Am Marching
- There’s a rapist on the loose, but should I call the cops?
- Make sure I'm awake!
- nehw yas ot nehw gniwonK
- Ever so slightly…
- "ASK ME" an internet Valentine
- Respect, Ask & Listen – It all works out!
- Freedom to choose (in Farsi)
- hopping in bed with CSR
- My line is drawn when I get there
- I am a sexual being + candy
- It changes- please ask. please listen.
- Don't make assumptions
- Establishing a mutual comfort level
- Vintage Sexual Harassment – Jerusalem, 2000
- Who's Afraid of Bears?
- Social Media / Working Films
- Alcohol + Consent, a G-chat
- I Want It!
- 9. Don’t Forget: You Can’t Have Sex with Someone Unless They Are Awake!
- Oh My God- YES!
- Truly Free Film
- NYC Screening + Community
- I Can Say "No"
- My Body is My Gift.
- Willamette University- House Party!
- Can You Look At Yourself In The Mirror?
- Paradigm Shift & SAFER Present
- Feminist Men & Fantastic Fallout Day #2
- I'm A Woman. I Love Sex.
- We Forgot To Talk About Pleasure…
- In My Heart
- We All Have A Stake in Having Better Sex!
- Deal With It!
- Do Booty Calls Have an Expiration Date?
- Delhi to Dhaka to Dakar!
- Abandoning Consent in Rape Law
- Are We Speaking The Same Language?
- Where The Men At?
- 17 Things to Remember About Sexuality
- 1000 Women Talk About Sex
- Life is Precious / You Are Precious
- "Communication," "Understanding," and Beers
- Roman Polanski – Day of Atonement
- Tucker Max, Girls Just Wanna Have Fun
- "Know How To Satisfy Moi"
- Going back to find THE LINE again
- "I Always Do Whatever We Agree On."
- "It Was Cooperative."
- Where Is Your Line? TELL US!







