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The Invisible War

Hello dear readersI have an exciting update about some new consulting work I am doing in the spirit of The Line Campaign. I have taken a job as the Campaign and Advocacy Director of “The Invisible War” a groundbreaking documentary film that examines the underreported epidemic of sexual assault in our U.S. Military.The statistics are shocking.

It is estimated that up to 30% of  women who serve in the U.S. Military have been raped by a fellow soldier
Only 8% of these rapes are reported (so we can assume that the numbers are much higher)

Only 2% of reported rapes receive convictions

The Invisible War which investigates the causes of this epidemic and exposes it’s systemic cover up, will be premiering in competition at the Sundance Film Festival on January 20th followed by several screenings throughout the festival.

The goals of the film and campaign are to raise awareness of this issue and push for concrete changes that will significantly alter the way in which the military prosecutes and punishes sexual assaults.  We want to better protect our service men and women and reduce the high incidence rates of this crime by (a)  encouraging the military to provide a safer way to report  (b) suggesting that the decision to advance in the prosecution of these crimes no longer be left to the discretion of the command  and (c) encourage greater understanding and awareness of the devastating effects and symptoms of MST (military rape) as well as ways to treat it that do not involve (over) medication.

If you have information about non-profits you think are fantastic, legislative bills we should know about, MST survivor platforms, interesting blogs we should look at, twitter feeds, etc. Please let me know!

We are on twitter @Invisible_War and Facebook.com/InvisibleWarMovie. Let us know if you want to be included in our newsletter and I’ll add your name.

And stay in touch!

Consent 101: Penn State at Abington

What is sexual consent? Where do we draw the line? How do we negotiate consent in our daily lives–in our sexuality, relationships, and the millions of other choices we face in our day to day lives? What is it that makes us say “yes” and what makes us say “no”–and how do we let people know and respect our decisions?

I screened The Line at Penn State at Abington and asked them!

When you stop listening.

When I fucking say NO!

Put a ring on it.

I refuse to cheat even when he is 3,000 miles away.

When I tell you f*** off.

Where she draws it.

Knowing someone inside and out…true love.

“I don’t know what happened” …is not an answer!

 

Consent 101: LREI High School

What is sexual consent? Where do we draw the line? How do we negotiate consent in our daily lives–in our sexuality, relationships, and the millions of other choices we face in our day to day lives? What is it that makes us say “yes” and what makes us say “no”–and how do we let people know and respect our decisions?

I screened The Line at LREI High School and asked them!

Undefined, but never changing–unless I decide differently.

I’ll be the judge of that. Not you.

Mutuality. It’s a two way street.

It depends. It tends to bend.

I don’t really know. You should ask and find out.

Ask me and you’ll know. Otherwise, you just don’t care.

Only when there is trust do we draw the line together.

Love, trust, emotion, respect.

 

Consent 101: Northwestern University

What is sexual consent? Where do we draw the line? How do we negotiate consent in our daily lives–in our sexuality, relationships, and the millions of other choices we face in our day to day lives? What is it that makes us say “yes” and what makes us say “no”–and how do we let people know and respect our decisions?

I screened The Line at Northwestern University and asked them!

 

You’ll know when I want you.

When I lose my individuality.

When I’m ready I’ll let you know…yes means yes!

Only I can know. Only I can tell you. Listen and respect my answer.

Wouldn’t you like to know? Just ask!

Respect me for who I am and what is in my heart, not just for what is underneath my clothes.

Mine is invisible. Proceed with caution.

No social conservatives.

Consent 101: Cornell University

What is sexual consent? Where do we draw the line? How do we negotiate consent in our daily lives–in our sexuality, relationships, and the millions of other choices we face in our day to day lives? What is it that makes us say “yes” and what makes us say “no”–and how do we let people know and respect our decisions?

I screened The Line at Cornell University and asked them!

 

Don’t try anything stupid.

Take me seriously when I say no. Don’t try to change my mind.

It moves. Please ask. I’ll do the same for you.

Guilt trips are not sexy.

If you don’t know me well enough to ask me.

When the basis of intimacy is no longer emotional or intellectual and physicality is demanded of me.

My purity.

Ask me. We can find out together.

 

Consent 101: University of Wisconsin at Oshkosh

What is sexual consent? Where do we draw the line? How do we negotiate consent in our daily lives–in our sexuality, relationships, and the millions of other choices we face in our day to day lives? What is it that makes us say “yes” and what makes us say “no”–and how do we let people know and respect our decisions?

I screened The Line at University of Wisconsin at Oshkosh and asked them!

 

Always ask me.

I’m done being hurt. Let me call the shots once.

Crazy and unpredictable (just like me!) ASK!

I will not be your one night stand. Prove to me that you are worth it!

When I trust him and he loves me.

Just because I’m married doesn’t mean I can’t say no! I say it all the time.

It involves open communication and respect.

 

Consent 101: University of Wisonsin at La Crosse

What is sexual consent? Where do we draw the line? How do we negotiate consent in our daily lives–in our sexuality, relationships, and the millions of other choices we face in our day to day lives? What is it that makes us say “yes” and what makes us say “no”–and how do we let people know and respect our decisions?

I screened The Line at University of Wisconsin at La Crosse and asked them!

 

It really changes. I have to feel like we are both in it, not just him.

Sex can wait. Masturbate.

Thin, flexible, strong–ask and we’ll explore!

When I wear a cute outfit and a guy looks at my eyes instead of my boobs or my ass.

When I say “No” don’t pressure me to have to say “Yes.”

Let’s explore each other with love and respect.

 

Consent 101: Answers from The Line Campaign

What is sexual consent? Where do we draw the line? How do we negotiate consent in our daily lives–in our sexuality, relationships, and the millions of other choices we face in our day to day lives? What is it that makes us say “yes” and what makes us say “no”–and how do we let people know and respect our decisions?

I’ve travelled across the country with The Line and The Line Campaign, asking thousands of students how they negotiate their line. We’re amazed at the diversity, the humor, the insight and the individuality of all the answers.  We decided to round up a few of our favorites – that you wrote – and will continue to curate a weekly round up by school!

I am a whole, not a hole.

I am a sexual being, not a sexual object.

When it starts becoming more about your power and control over my body than our mutual want to explore our sexuality equally.

Consent in my head is not consent in my bed. Ask!!!

I’m the boss of it. No means no. Yes means yes!

When I walk down the aisle.

No social conservatives.

Assume nothing. Let’s talk!

Circle of 6 Wins the White House Challenge!

We’re incredibly excited to announce that we won the White House Apps Against Abuse Challenge!

The White House #AppsAgainstAbuse challenge is an initiative spearheaded by Vice President Joseph Biden and his #1is2many campaign to end sexual assault and abuse on college campuses.

The idea behind this app is based on our experiences and conversations when screening The Line on college campuses. One of the very positive aspects of student living is the close proximity and the tightly-knit relationships that can spring from that. The app highlights this, and shows how important close community and relationships are in the fight to prevent violence.

Circle of 6 works by programming the contact information of five friends and creating a “Circle of 6”, an application to be taken advantage of in case of an uncomfortable situation or emergency. It is equipped with GPS coordinates, mobile messaging, and in two simple steps, anyone can quickly and efficiently contact a friend and alert them to their situation—raising awareness around and ultimately preventing sexual violence.

This app was created in collaboration with Deb Levine of ISIS-Inc, Christine Corbett Moran, and our long-time friend and design collaborator, Thomas Cabus, who has worked with us on both The Line Campaign and our latest film xoxosms.

The app will be available to download in January. In the meantime, take our pledge on Facebook, stay tuned for updates and follow us on Twitter @Circleof6app.

The Line Campaign at Media That Matters Conference

Check out the clip from the Media That Matters Conference: Women and Girls Matter. Put on by Arts Engine, the annual conference highlights documentary films having impact. Judith Helfand of Chicken and Egg Pictures moderates the session, and highlights The Line Campaign, at 35 minutes.

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