Author Archive

Consent 101: Penn State at Abington

What is sexual consent? Where do we draw the line? How do we negotiate consent in our daily lives–in our sexuality, relationships, and the millions of other choices we face in our day to day lives? What is it that makes us say “yes” and what makes us say “no”–and how do we let people know and respect our decisions?

I screened The Line at Penn State at Abington and asked them!

When you stop listening.

When I fucking say NO!

Put a ring on it.

I refuse to cheat even when he is 3,000 miles away.

When I tell you f*** off.

Where she draws it.

Knowing someone inside and out…true love.

“I don’t know what happened” …is not an answer!

 

Consent 101: LREI High School

What is sexual consent? Where do we draw the line? How do we negotiate consent in our daily lives–in our sexuality, relationships, and the millions of other choices we face in our day to day lives? What is it that makes us say “yes” and what makes us say “no”–and how do we let people know and respect our decisions?

I screened The Line at LREI High School and asked them!

Undefined, but never changing–unless I decide differently.

I’ll be the judge of that. Not you.

Mutuality. It’s a two way street.

It depends. It tends to bend.

I don’t really know. You should ask and find out.

Ask me and you’ll know. Otherwise, you just don’t care.

Only when there is trust do we draw the line together.

Love, trust, emotion, respect.

 

Consent 101: Northwestern University

What is sexual consent? Where do we draw the line? How do we negotiate consent in our daily lives–in our sexuality, relationships, and the millions of other choices we face in our day to day lives? What is it that makes us say “yes” and what makes us say “no”–and how do we let people know and respect our decisions?

I screened The Line at Northwestern University and asked them!

 

You’ll know when I want you.

When I lose my individuality.

When I’m ready I’ll let you know…yes means yes!

Only I can know. Only I can tell you. Listen and respect my answer.

Wouldn’t you like to know? Just ask!

Respect me for who I am and what is in my heart, not just for what is underneath my clothes.

Mine is invisible. Proceed with caution.

No social conservatives.

Consent 101: Cornell University

What is sexual consent? Where do we draw the line? How do we negotiate consent in our daily lives–in our sexuality, relationships, and the millions of other choices we face in our day to day lives? What is it that makes us say “yes” and what makes us say “no”–and how do we let people know and respect our decisions?

I screened The Line at Cornell University and asked them!

 

Don’t try anything stupid.

Take me seriously when I say no. Don’t try to change my mind.

It moves. Please ask. I’ll do the same for you.

Guilt trips are not sexy.

If you don’t know me well enough to ask me.

When the basis of intimacy is no longer emotional or intellectual and physicality is demanded of me.

My purity.

Ask me. We can find out together.

 

Consent 101: University of Wisconsin at Oshkosh

What is sexual consent? Where do we draw the line? How do we negotiate consent in our daily lives–in our sexuality, relationships, and the millions of other choices we face in our day to day lives? What is it that makes us say “yes” and what makes us say “no”–and how do we let people know and respect our decisions?

I screened The Line at University of Wisconsin at Oshkosh and asked them!

 

Always ask me.

I’m done being hurt. Let me call the shots once.

Crazy and unpredictable (just like me!) ASK!

I will not be your one night stand. Prove to me that you are worth it!

When I trust him and he loves me.

Just because I’m married doesn’t mean I can’t say no! I say it all the time.

It involves open communication and respect.

 

Consent 101: University of Wisonsin at La Crosse

What is sexual consent? Where do we draw the line? How do we negotiate consent in our daily lives–in our sexuality, relationships, and the millions of other choices we face in our day to day lives? What is it that makes us say “yes” and what makes us say “no”–and how do we let people know and respect our decisions?

I screened The Line at University of Wisconsin at La Crosse and asked them!

 

It really changes. I have to feel like we are both in it, not just him.

Sex can wait. Masturbate.

Thin, flexible, strong–ask and we’ll explore!

When I wear a cute outfit and a guy looks at my eyes instead of my boobs or my ass.

When I say “No” don’t pressure me to have to say “Yes.”

Let’s explore each other with love and respect.

 

Consent 101: Answers from The Line Campaign

What is sexual consent? Where do we draw the line? How do we negotiate consent in our daily lives–in our sexuality, relationships, and the millions of other choices we face in our day to day lives? What is it that makes us say “yes” and what makes us say “no”–and how do we let people know and respect our decisions?

I’ve travelled across the country with The Line and The Line Campaign, asking thousands of students how they negotiate their line. We’re amazed at the diversity, the humor, the insight and the individuality of all the answers.  We decided to round up a few of our favorites – that you wrote – and will continue to curate a weekly round up by school!

I am a whole, not a hole.

I am a sexual being, not a sexual object.

When it starts becoming more about your power and control over my body than our mutual want to explore our sexuality equally.

Consent in my head is not consent in my bed. Ask!!!

I’m the boss of it. No means no. Yes means yes!

When I walk down the aisle.

No social conservatives.

Assume nothing. Let’s talk!

Circle of 6 Wins the White House Challenge!

We’re incredibly excited to announce that we won the White House Apps Against Abuse Challenge!

The White House #AppsAgainstAbuse challenge is an initiative spearheaded by Vice President Joseph Biden and his #1is2many campaign to end sexual assault and abuse on college campuses.

The idea behind this app is based on our experiences and conversations when screening The Line on college campuses. One of the very positive aspects of student living is the close proximity and the tightly-knit relationships that can spring from that. The app highlights this, and shows how important close community and relationships are in the fight to prevent violence.

Circle of 6 works by programming the contact information of five friends and creating a “Circle of 6”, an application to be taken advantage of in case of an uncomfortable situation or emergency. It is equipped with GPS coordinates, mobile messaging, and in two simple steps, anyone can quickly and efficiently contact a friend and alert them to their situation—raising awareness around and ultimately preventing sexual violence.

This app was created in collaboration with Deb Levine of ISIS-Inc, Christine Corbett Moran, and our long-time friend and design collaborator, Thomas Cabus, who has worked with us on both The Line Campaign and our latest film xoxosms.

The app will be available to download in January. In the meantime, take our pledge on Facebook, stay tuned for updates and follow us on Twitter @Circleof6app.

The Line Campaign at Media That Matters Conference

Check out the clip from the Media That Matters Conference: Women and Girls Matter. Put on by Arts Engine, the annual conference highlights documentary films having impact. Judith Helfand of Chicken and Egg Pictures moderates the session, and highlights The Line Campaign, at 35 minutes.

Video streaming by Ustream

xoxosms screens this weekend and online!

I am excited to announce that my new film, xoxosms will be premiering at the 22nd annual New Orleans Film Festival on Sunday October 16th. If you will be at the festival, it will be opening for the documentary (A)Sexual at 2:20 PM at the Theaters Canal Palace, 333 Canal Street in New Orleans.

If you can’t make the festival, the film will be streaming online all weekend, starting October 14th – 17th at www.xoxosmsfilm.org

xoxosms follows the story of Gus and Jiyun, two star crossed lovers in a digital age who meet, connect, and maintain their relationship predominantly over the Internet. It raises the questions of intimacy and love, and whether or not this is possible—or in some instances better—over a digital connection.

I’d love to hear from you! Is there such a thing as “digital intimacy”? Can online love work in real life? What is a connection? Check out our newly designed website, watch the film and let us know what you think on Twitter, @xoxosms—don’t forget to hashtag #xoxosms. Spread the word with our Facebook invite.

Thanks, and hope to see you at the theater or on twitter using #xoxosms!

All Posts from this Author